American culture treats singleness as a disease.  Something is wrong with you if you are not constantly with someone.  No one is meant to complete you except Christ.  You will always be looking and searching to be filled by others if you are not content or filled with Christ.  He is our puzzle piece.

Guys, are you preparing your heart to be a godly husband?  Are you ready to lead your bride and be the head of your family?  Are you ready to love and honor your wife the way Christ loves the church?  Women, are we preparing our hearts to be a godly wife who will love and respect and honor our husband like God calls us to?

Relationships are not just to have cute pictures to post on social media. We are so focused on planning our weddings, but not focused on preparing ourselves for marriage.  Hard times will come.  Is the person you’re with going to wait out the storms with you?

Youtube Link: “I will Wait for you” Poem by Janette 

I have watched this Youtube video repeatedly and cry every single time.

I recommend watching it if you are married, single, a grandparent, a mom, a dad, in high school, in college, and anywhere you are in your life.

If you are a Christian waiting on God you need to know that waiting on Him is hard.  We have desires.  We watch others get what we so desperately want.  We watch people who throw people away so fast get married and have our “dream life”.

“Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life.”
-Proverbs 13:12

But, if you look closely would you really want their life?

You are not forgotten.  You are loved so deeply by the King of Kings and Lord of Lords.  The Creator of the universe came to this earth to die for you and don’t you ever believe any lies that you are not worthy of love.  You were worth so much and so precious in His sight that He chose you from the foundation of the world and died just for you.  If you are called to be married it is so important to not settle for temporary pleasures, but to willingly wait for God’s destiny.  It’s so worth it to be in His will.  As frustrating as it is to wait and feel like your life is flying you by it’s that much more important to be stedfast and remain in God’s will because life is hard enough.  I have enough problems I don’t want what I want.  I want what God wants for me.

Singleness is a gift.  I have to remind myself of that a lot.  It IS a very valuable gift.  Getting married isn’t ALL life is.  God has you single for a reason.  Find out that reason and use it to help others.  In Corinthians Paul even says it is better to remain single because you’re in a better position to work for His kingdom.  You have more time to devote to Him instead of having to worry about the cares of the world to tend to your family.

Use this time to pray about God’s plan for you.  Use this time to pray about and perfect the gifts and abilities He has given you.  Use this time wisely.

Study His word, learn a new hobby, learn a new skill, LEARN.

You have an entire life waiting for you that may or may not involve a spouse.  To God be the glory either way.

Having a spouse is a blessing for sure.  Being single is also a blessing.  You have time that you will never get back.  When you are married you will have less time and when you have children you will have even LESSER time to devote to these things.

This time is for you and God’s relationship.  There is no other that can ever compare and you will never find your worth anywhere else.

I know what it feels like to be single and a Christian and how lonely it can feel.  I know what it’s like to have these deep desires that never seem to pass.  I know what it’s like to feel like seasons will never change and time is running out.  I know what it’s like to wait on God and have to trust in the stillness and silence.  I know what it’s like to watch all your friends get married and having babies while you’re “stuck”.  I know what it’s like to stay up at night crying and wondering if God heard your prayers.  I know what it’s like to wonder if all you desire is in vain and maybe you’re meant to stay single forever.  I know what it’s like to have to give up what you want most because you know God’s plan is better.

“Are you dating anyone?”
“Are you married?”
“Are you single?”
“How are you going to meet anyone if you…”
“Why aren’t you dating anyone?”
“Why aren’t you married?”
“You don’t have a boyfriend?”
“Do you ever want to get married?”

***No, I’ve never thought about it…***

I know what it’s like to be asked ALL THE TIME about the one wound that never will shut because it’s a constant water drop on your forehead.  I know what it’s like to continuously respond that you’re waiting on God and to repeatedly hear laughter about it.  I know what it’s like to be looked at like singleness is a disease and not something to be cherished.

I know.

I also know what I’ve prayed since I was little:
For Him to keep me to Himself and that there would only ever be one for me.

I have learned Who my God is and how He kept that promise for me.  I know He is a promise keeper and is faithful.  I know He has protected me and guided me.  I know he is preparing me and He is preparing who He has for me.  I know He is preparing us at the same time to be ready to walk into the life He has for us.

Keep running this race.  The one God has for you will be just your pace.  Nobody in the bible ever stressed about finding a spouse and since God never changes that means you shouldn’t either.  He sees you right where you are.  Stop trying to be seen.  You are where you are for a reason learning what you need to and doing what you’re supposed to be doing.  If you feel like something is missing then ask Him to guide you into what you should be doing.

You will be enough just as you are and you will look up and say, “Ah…There you are.  I’ve been waiting for you”.

And that’s all you ever should be. 😀

This is an excerpt from the Youtube Link’s poem:

I will wait for you by Janette

“And I will know you
because when you speak,
I will be reminded of Solomon’s wisdom,
your ability to lead will remind me of Moses,
your faith will remind me of Abraham,
your confidence in God’s Word will remind me of Daniel,
your inspiration will remind me of Paul,
your heart for God will remind me of David,
your attention to detail will remind me of Noah,
your integrity will remind me of Joseph,
and your ability to abandon your own will, will remind me of the disciples,
but your ability to love selflessly & unconditionally will remind me of Christ.
But I won’t need to identify you by any special Matthews
or any special marks,
’cause His Word will be tatted all over your heart.

And you will know me,
and you will find me,
where
the boldness of Esther
meets the warm closeness of Ruth,
where the hospitality of Lydia
is aligned with the submission of Mary,
which is engulfed in the tears of a praying Hanna.
I will be the one,
drenched in Proverbs 31,
waiting for you.

But to my Father,
my Father who has known me before I was birthed into this earth,
only if You should see fit.

I desire Your will above mine.
So even if you call me to a life of singleness,
my heart is content with You–the One who was sent.
You are the greatest love story ever told,
the greatest love ever known.
You are forever my judge & I’m forever Your witness,
and I pray that I’m always found on a mission about my Father’s business.

I will always be Yours,
and I will always wait for You, Lord.
More than the watchmen wait for the morning,
more than the watchmen wait for the morning,
I will wait.”