Ok, ok … Not a literal ladder because I love home improvement projects.

Also, this post is a photo dump from the weekend because I can. 😛

The world has gone mad with this gender equality garbage and mutilating children for the sake of “being oneself”. It brags about drag queen shows for children and legalizing pedophilia. I have been Facebook-free for over a year and am pretty content with my decision. I am thankful not to look into my neighbor’s highlight reels 24/7, comparing my life to theirs. I am enjoying life and am too grateful for this season of my life to let the ridiculousness and pressures of social media ruin it. However, being off social media means I live in a bubble, and when I see things about current society, I can only think we are living in a meme world.

The world has taken God out of everything, and the view of a functional home is completely skewed and scoffed at. God’s order of things was perfect and protected both men and women from ourselves. The human heart is wicked and deceitful above all things. It is selfish and only to satisfy itself, void of self-responsibility, leading to people with entitlement issues, single mothers, and deadbeat dads. It leads to domestic abuse and a lack of wisdom in choosing a life partner. It is a recipe for divorce or loveless marriage.

Society wants men and women to be equal, but that is not God’s original plan. We are created to be helpmates for each other and strengths when the other is weak. The man is typically less emotional and more driven to work in order to provide fort his household where the woman is more emotional and nurturing caring to tend for things at home. This was not a mistake as it is the balance of God’s plan, but society is now shaped to destroy the family by forcing both man and woman to work in order to make ends meet. Women are now pressured to have careers because men have lost the responsibility to take care of the woman. There is nothing wrong with a woman having a career, but the problem comes when the world brags about murdering an unborn child in the name of having a gold name plate on their desk.

Ryan was in town from Thursday-Monday, and it was the most time we have had in person besides our engagement week with his family. We spent it hanging out with Brent and doing home improvement projects to help my dad. We did not stop all weekend, and it made me so much more thankful that I would get to marry this man. To put it simply, I am happy to submit to him, and I know that goes against everything the world teaches, but that’s because the world teaches us to have toxic relationships. The world teaches to satisfy ourselves and look out for our own needs, which is why the world is in its current state.

I am not a man, and I never will be. I was never one to want to climb the corporate ladder, and my current bank account and job situation prove that. However, God has provided a man who wants to help and provide for me. He sees it as his job to be head of household and the breadwinner. My insecurities flare up over not being where I wanted to be in life with a job, but it is where God has me with the flexibility to spend time with the amazing man He gave me. However, God gave me a great work ethic and an extraordinary man I get to spend life with. I do not know where God will lead us, but I am grateful to be part of his life and trust our separate life paths were not in vain. We come from different backgrounds, which is how God shaped us for each other and the excruciating waiting period was where growth happened. Some might say we are still in the new relationship phase, but we never had a “lovey-dovey” phase due to distance and continuously throwing flames at each other to test where the other stood. (Note: This cracks me up because Ryan’s mom would beg to differ. When we were at her house for engagement week in July, we were in the kitchen hugging each other, and she walked past his dad and said, “They’re being gross”. We quote that and laugh ALL THE TIME.) I never want to take him for granted and want to have a servant’s heart in marriage. I can be stubborn and fight back, but I want to have a long lasting marriage and nurture the family God gave me. I never want to forget how thankful I am to have Ryan in my life.

I was trying to come up with something to say about the state of the world and how they got it all wrong about submission. Instead, I will write how thankful I am to get my greatest prayer answered: a husband. Finally. I am grateful to have someone to cook for and bring him his coffee in the mornings. I am sure this will become mundane one day, but I never want to forget how appreciative I am for him. I want to remember the long wait and how God taught me to be a wife. I am thankful because he is thankful for me and is not demanding or unappreciative of my little efforts. He is kind, generous, and works hard. He has skills I do not have, and I have skills he does not have, but we help each other. One of my biggest prayers for a husband was that they had to get along with Brent, which reveals so much character. Not only do they get along, but I no longer exist.

Watching Ryan fix things for my dad made me happy to have him as my husband. He is so handy and innovative and voluntarily helps because he loves projects and helping others. He is everything I prayed for and more. While that sounds disgusting and vomit-inducing, I cannot help it. He is my heart’s desire and better than what I prayed for (and I prayed for a long time!). We have had a few intense arguments, but he is so patient and understanding when he could have exploded.

I am so excited to get to build a life with this man.

There is nothing to fear about submitting to your husband when your husband is in submission to Christ. The world says not to submit because they do not want a relationship made for a team but instead want to satisfy their lustful heart and live separately. As for the man’s side of this, be a man worth submitting to. 🙂

Ryan made all new chair things out of wood with a drill attachment he bought from Lowe’s because he did not want to order plastic from Amazon.

That was only 1/20th of the projects we did this weekend and I told him he was the best thing I ever bought from the internet. While the world is fighting for women to become men and men to become women, but cannot even define what a woman is… but tell us where they belong…

I will be grateful for God’s blessing of marriage. I don’t want to climb a ladder unless it’s helping my husband with a project. 🙂

“Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils; Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron; Forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.  For every creature of God is good, and nothing to be refused, if it be received with thanksgiving For it is sanctified by the word of God and prayer.

If thou put the brethren in remembrance of these things, thou shalt be a good minister of Jesus Christ, nourished up in the words of faith and of good doctrine, whereunto thou hast attained. But refuse profane and old wives’ fables, and exercise thyself rather unto godliness. For bodily exercise profiteth little: but godliness is profitable unto all things, having promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come. This is a faithful saying and worthy of all acceptation.” – 1 Timothy 4:1-9