A few years ago, God used a religious cult to open my eyes to the truth of scripture. He brought this lesson through the “man of my dreams”. Isn’t this usually how we learn our lessons? We are not persuaded through things we know to stay away from, but instead with appealing and beautiful things. This was a significant growing pain in my life, with emphasis on pain. It was a great lesson of walking away from everything I desired to follow God’s plan for everything I ever wanted was in front of me, and I had to make a choice.

Because God was ripping the scales off my eyes every time I opened my Bible, I could not believe the arguments, and it was during this time, I understood what it means to be spiritually blinded. “Ohhhhh! They really cannot see it!” While this was one of the wildest seasons of my life for several reasons, it has taken years to laugh about ‘water baptism’. I’ll not bring that up because it was so intense, and those that were in my life at the time (ahem… Kalynn and David) understand that one phrase with nothing else spoken. “Remember the water baptism…” #neverforget

I not only got into arguments with the guy but with his whole family. They were genuinely out to convert me out of concern for my salvation by opening my eyes to the truth of scripture through their religion that they believe is the one true church. Because of this, I was called unteachable, rebellious, and stubborn. He would come back with statements from the “elders” he spoke to at church who had talking points but were not accurate counsel to me.

Look, I am not one to look for trouble or arguments, but since being saved, nobody can take what God has done in my life away from me, and these people were deceived.. He put me on the phone with his mom one night so she could try to explain things, and I just kept defending my faith and what scripture says. At one point, with genuine concern, she said, “The bible says a woman is to submit to her husband,” and her reasoning was because I was so “wild” arguing with her and her son about scripture. My response was, “he isn’t my husband”.

I do not have to submit to anything he says because I am not under his authority. We were not married or in any covenant but were friends having ‘intense’ discussions. I was rebellious because I was utterly ‘feral’ being led by the Holy Spirit, arguing almost everything they were saying. I was not arguing to be contentious, but because of the loud clanging lies that directly opposed what God’s word says. My spirit could not handle it, but I knew I was planted because this was what God was using to teach me. My dad would tell me, “You can’t marry him.” My response was usually a defensive tearful, “I know I can’t! This is not about him. This is between God and me right now!!”

I believe God works everything out for our good. I am so thankful He used that season to teach me, for without that, I would not have the wisdom or knowledge I have now.

Over the years, I’ve been told I’m too picky about a husband, and I will not find someone who believes the same things I do. I’ve been told all kinds of things, and by Christian people. I refuse to compromise because there is no way I cannot believe that God delivered me, giving me a new heart and mind not to have someone with the same heart and mind to enter into a covenant with. I refuse to believe that, and I refuse to be married simply for the sake of being married. Yes, I desire marriage, but I will not spend my entire life arguing. Life is hard enough to create your problem of being unequally yoked. I’ve witnessed unequally yoked marriages, and I do not want to live that way. I could not do it, for I would never be at peace. I would never be the meek and quiet wife who submits to errors for the sake of “marriage,” and contention is created when the foundation is not solid or level. The spouse will never measure up or be good enough in an unequally yoked marriage because the foundation is cracked, thus breeding a nagging wife. Knowing how I am in life, I already know the type of life I would have, and I do not want any part of it. Scripture says a wife is to submit to her husband just as the husband submits to Christ. There is an order here and why it is crucial to not be unequally yoked. I could never “submit” or agree with blatant lies or error just for the sake of being married because it is what “I want”. I do not know why God has me single still, but in every season I will praise Him. I know He is faithful and whether I get married or not I will live the days of my life serving HIM in spirit and in truth.

I have had recent exposures about the contentious wife, and I pray for God to help me not be one.

“It is better to live in a desert land, than with a contentious and vexing woman.” Proverbs 21:19

“It is better to live in a corner of the roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” Proverbs 25:24

“A constant dripping on a day of steady rain and a contentious woman are alike. He who would restrain her restrains the wind, and grasps oil with his right hand.” Proverbs 27:15

I watched this sermon this morning and it is related to this post because a woman wants to rule the husband. The fall caused women to want to be in control and now they are trying to take over the churches. But, what does God say?